After seven years of marriage with no children, my husband and I have gotten used to the freedom. On the weekends we go to bed when we want and sleep as long as we want. We take off for a weekend trip on a moments notice. We enjoy going to the movies and eating out frequently.
There are things we haven't done yet that we'd like to do too. For example, our honeymoon was nice, four days stay in a family friend's cabin, but we always said we'd go on a tropical vacation someday. It hasn't happened yet. There are other places we'd like to travel too.
If we have a child, it doesn't mean we won't ever be able to travel, but it will certainly make it harder. Money will be tighter and we'll probably end up putting off our "honeymoon" plans even longer - or forever.
Then there's the stuff we'd like to get. This Christmas we got a couple Wal-Mart gift cards and we talked about what we wanted to get. Although we have a desktop computer we've always wanted to get a laptop so we had a long discussion about using the gift cards toward a laptop. The problem is, the gift cards would only go a short way toward the laptop and we'd have to charge the rest. The whole reason we've decided to wait to go off birth control, is to focus on paying off our credit card bills, car loan and put money into savings.
In the end we didn't get the laptop. But there's always other purchases that we'll have to weigh. New furniture. Nice dishes. Four-wheel drive vehicle. Nice clothes.
It guess the upshot here is we might have some cold feet. I got all gung ho about having a baby because hubby talked about wanting to. Now he's not sure and I'm not sure.
Confusion.
